This is an extremely disempowering state of mind which will cause you untold and completely unnecessary stress and misery. As the saying goes – ‘It may never happen.’
Rather than imagining extremes of drama and disaster around every event of your life, practise being calm and expecting the best possible outcome. Don’t worry, be happy!
There is absolutely no point in anticipating the worst because that will increase the likelihood of the worst occurring. As you may have read in previous posts, what you search for is what you will find. When you focus on drama and disaster, it comes to you in great big servings and it multiplies. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy of doom, gloom and misery. Over time, it starts to feel as though you are in a deep pit of struggle, trouble and strife and it can seem that it’s impossible to climb out of your pit.
This is where Life Coaching is invaluable – it gives you the tools to climb out of the pit of despair, easily…
Now I know about the pit of despair, I was in it for over two years after a marriage break up. I wallowed and I complained, I was a total victim. I talked of nothing else and was a complete pain to everyone who knew me. By the end of the two years, I was so fed up with listening to my own tale of woe I decided to move on. It was a miracle I had any friends left at this time. If I was fed up with me, imagine how they must have felt!
And as soon as I decided I had enough of the misery and complaining and things not working out for me, my life started to change. I met new, positive people and discovered tools to help me learn from what had happened and become stronger.
This is what Life Coaching will do for you – give you the tools to learn positive lessons for yourself and for the future so you can move powerfully forward and create the life you want and so richly deserve.
When you worry and look for problems, they come. Then it becomes a cycle of negative experiences and limiting beliefs which continues without a break.
The flip side of the coin is that when you focus on happy, positive experiences and keep only happy, positive people around you, you find things go well for you and the universe supports you in your dreams and goals.
This is not to say that “bad” things won’t happen in your life – death, divorce,illness and all those other things that are a part of our experience on this planet. The BIG difference is how you deal with these things. When you view events in your life as lessons to make you stronger, you will move on in a positive way and continue to grow as a person. This is the secret to a happy and fulfilling life.