This is a common occurrence. Weight is lost, weight is gained, weight is lost, weight is gained and with every gain, we seem to get even heavier than we were before.
When everything is right – the amount of energy in = energy expended or is less than energy expended, then we will maintain or lose weight, right? WRONG!
Clearly this is wrong, or we wouldn’t have the issue of the recurring cycle of weight loss/weight gain and you probably wouldn’t be here, reading this article and hoping that this time you’ve found the answer.
So what is it that we’re not told about losing weight successfully?
One of the key ingredients to successful loss of excess weight is mindset. The things we believe about ourselves, tell ourselves and focus on, all contribute to whether or not we can lose weight and then keep it off, permanently.
As a very thin friend of mine, who has a healthy appetite, says – ‘I think skinny thoughts!’
So ask yourself now, ‘Do I think fat thoughts or skinny thoughts?’
There are several reasons we gain body fat and they’re not always related to the quality and quantity of food we eat. Obviously, if you live on fried food and sugar and spend your life on the couch, you will gain weight.
But what if you eat hardly anything at all?
Or what if you eat a healthy diet?
Or walk every day and are generally active?
And yet you still gain weight, almost with the air you breathe.
What’s going on there?
Think back to your childhood…was there a time you were told certain things that made you feel bad about yourself?
Was there a time you were physically or emotionally abused?
Was there a time you were held up to ridicule and made to feel embarrassed?
Was there a time you were put in danger?
Was there a time your trust was betrayed?
Was there a time you were not loved and protected?
Was there a time the love was taken away from you?
If the answer to any of these questions is ‘yes’, then you have the perfect set up for a lifetime of weight issues.
More often than not, abuse leads to negative feelings and beliefs about ourselves. We feel unworthy of love, looking good, being treated well by others and ourselves. We can develop beliefs that we are dirty, guilty, bad, useless, stupid, ugly, unlovable, unwanted and anything else you would like to add.
What we believe about life and ourselves is exactly what we will get. Therefore, if we feel unworthy of treating ourselves well and being happy and healthy, there’s a fair chance that a weight problem will be the result.
Now, I’m not implying that there is always a component of abuse where there is excess weight. Nor am I saying that abuse always leads to food issues. All I’m saying is that over the course of my 19 years in the health industry, it’s a common thread I’ve noticed.
It often does appear that when the weight has been lost, the self esteem improves but this is only temporary when the underlying self loathing is still there and this will kick back in and bring all the weight back and then some.