If you are a regular reader of my posts on Life Coaching, you will have noticed by
now that I often mention that you need to do something for yourself, something
that makes you happy, on a regular basis.
So what is ‘your thing’?
What is it that you are passionate about and that makes your heart sing?
It can be reading, walking, sport, an aromatic bath, horse riding, dancing, a
massage or facial, it can be absolutely anything your heart desires, as long as
it’s just for you.
My ‘thing’, for the past two years, has been African Drumming. I find it to be an
escape into another world, a world of creativity, challenge and fun. Music has
always been an important part of my life and my djembe (African drum) is now
a great friend. When I’m drumming, I feel joyful and free.
When you find your particular passion, it’s the most amazing way to bring
balance and happiness back into your life. As they say, all work and no play
makes Jill a dull girl!
The interesting thing is that even when your work lights you up, as my work
as a Life Coach and NLP practitioner most definitely does, you still need to have
that break, that something that’s just for you, that takes you away for awhile to
your place of joy and freedom.
I’ve had many clients over the years who have forgotten what it’s like to have a
hobby or an interest that’s just for them. As most of my clients are women, it’s
usually the family and the children that take up their every waking moment. This
becomes a real issue when the family starts to grow up a bit and gets to be more
independent. Then, suddenly, the woman is left with time to think and realizes
she has no idea who she is anymore.
Maybe there was a career once upon a time or a sport at which she excelled.
Perhaps she was once an avid reader or cyclist. The business of motherhood and
family life has caused her to forget this other part of herself, the part that allowed
her to do things she loved, for herself.
This is the point at which I often get to meet a new client – she’s wondering who
she is and where she is headed. I always get her to think back to the things she
used to enjoy before she had children and then also to consider what she might
be interested in pursuing now.
It can be quite a challenge for some women to think of anything at all, they are
so conditioned to putting themselves last that it feels all wrong for them to be
putting some effort into themselves.
If you feel you’re at this point in your own life, here are a few tips to help you
find some direction.
1. Be mindful of your surroundings, conversations and the people
with whom you come into contact. The universe always supports you
in what you want so when you’re searching for some direction, the universe
may send you a person, a book, a movie or a situation to help you find it.
2. Be still. Stop the chatter in your head and listen. Guidance will come.
3. Be enquiring. Take action and start looking for direction. Read books,
ask questions, talk to people.
If you want more help, Life Coaching will get you on the right track.