Consider this very carefully – concern yourself only with what you can control…
when you do that, it immediately lifts a massive weight from your shoulders. When you expend energy on trying to ‘fix’ other people or make them live their lives by your rules, you are just wasting your own time, causing yourself needless stress and worry and engaging in something that is, basically, none of your
business or concern.
When you are a parent or look after someone who can’t take care of themselves, the children or the person needing a carer are absolutely your responsibility!
However, when your children are grown up, they are responsible for themselves.
They are no longer your concern. Let me repeat that – when your children are grown up they are no longer your concern.
As for the wider community, they are not within the realms of your control. Healthy, functioning adults are all entitled to lead their own lives safe from interference from others. If an adult in the community is causing pain and harm to another member of the community, then, of course, you are honour bound to do something about it – ie intervene if that is something you can do safely OR report it to the relevant authority.
Other than that, everyone is entitled to be free to live their own lives in the manner of their choosing. Imagine how much easier and less stressful your life can be when you only concern yourself with what you can control.
The only thing you can actually control is yourself. That’s right… you can control your emotions, your mindset and your behaviour. You are the only person responsible for these things – it’s not the fault of your parents, your boss or the government. You are the sole person who has control of these things in your life.
If this is a difficult concept for you to grasp and you feel your emotional state and attitude to life in general is caused by your upbringing, your ex or any other person or thing besides yourself, then I can help you let go of those limiting beliefs and negative emotions with Life Coaching.
Life Coaching will put you back in charge of your life, your emotions and your behaviour, empowering you to be the very best person you can be and getting on track to having the most magnificent life you can possibly imagine.
Think of it this way – everyone on this planet is here for a reason, to learn a specific set of lessons. Usually, each one of us is unaware of the lessons in our own lives and we certainly don’t know why someone else is here. Therefore, when we interfere in another persons life and try to make them be how we think they should be, we are doing them and ourselves a great disservice.
The ultimate respect for others is to allow them to discover their own lessons and live their own lives. Unless they are actively causing harm to another living creature, they must be allowed to make their own mistakes, in their own way. That is a sign of real respect and love for another human being. So let me help you, if this is problematic for you and you will discover the freedom that comes from letting go control of the lives of others.